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Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 1 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com Adam Lyons www.AttractionExplained.com 101 Ways to Qualify Attraction Wildfire Contents Introduction 3 Why we Qualify 5 Types of Qualiﬁers 7 Qualiﬁcation Statements 7 Small Qualiﬁcation Hoops 9 Medium Qualiﬁcation Hoops 11 Large Qualiﬁcation Hoops 11 How to Qualify 14 Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 2 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com Introduction Investment is the key thing that leads to attraction. Breaking rapport is the stage that get the other person to form that initial investment. That is the first trigger, or spark, of attraction. Once that initial investment is there you want to capitalize on it and use that to continue the interaction. This is where qualification comes in. If breaking rapport is the spark of attraction then qualification is the attraction wildfire. While many may understand the essence behind qualification it might be difficult to actually think of specific questions or use your own ideas while in set. It can be challenging to try and create your own, so we thought that compiling a list of them into a guide would be the easiest way to help others get an idea of the types of questions and statements they should be aiming for whilst creating their own qualifiers. The point isn’t to just memorize a bunch of questions off of a list, rather you should be thinking of the traits and characteristics that you are seeking for in a partner and qualify Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 3 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com the other person based on those qualities. You will often find that deep rapport is developed as a result of qualification. That is exactly the type of connection that should be forming! As always, as you continue to speak and interact with the opposite sex you will find that this is something that will occur naturally in conversation. Use our examples as a guide and then create your own. If you come up with any other great ideas or questions feel free to send a message to adam@attractionexplained.com and we can add it to the next list. Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 4 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com Why We Qualify Since qualification is the wildfire that spreads attraction it is the single best way to gain investment, which makes it the most important phase in game. One of the most common problems guys make is that they try to show high value traits in order to impress the girl, however this is often obvious and the very action of trying to impress destroys what value they may have. It’s fair to say Brad Pitt wouldn’t spend his time talking about his million dollar home, the movies he’s been in, his different types of cars and the fact that he sleeps with Angelina Jolie every night. He would more likely ask questions about your life and be interested in you. People who truly possess high value don’t bother trying to impress people. Instead they use qualification to get others to prove themselves to them. Its the hardest stage of attraction to actually learn and one that most people fail to use properly! It can often be hard to know how to qualify the right way, what type of qualifier to use, and to even know what to qualify on. This manual is designed to help guide through all of those issues. Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 5 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com To truly qualify correctly the qualifiers you use should actually have meaning to you. Qualification is where you can get to know the girl and see if she’s the kind of girl you truly want. For example one person might want a bisexual girl and qualify with, “About every girl I know has at least kissed another girl. I love that. Have you ever done that or at least thought about it?” while another might want a religious girl and qualify on asking what type of religion they follow. With that said, it is strongly suggested that you use the examples provided in this book as simply ideas and stepping stones to come up with your very own list of qualifiers that you use when out. Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 6 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com Types of Qualiﬁers Qualification Statements Small Qualification Hoops Medium Qualification Hoops Large Qualification Hoops The four types of qualifiers are listed above. Each of them serve a separate purpose and can create different levels of attraction, however they all have different concepts that are important to grasp and understand. We will outline them below. Qualification Statements A qualification statement is a comment that you would make to someone that you have preloaded with a characteristic that you like. The characteristic is usually a positive one that they will want to live up to. A brief example of a qualification statement is listed below. Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 7 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com “Hey, you seem really friendly, I just wanted to ask you a quick question.” The sentence above is an example of a qualification statement. Saying “You seem really friendly” is the qualifier. What it does is set the tone for the interaction because by telling them they looks friendly makes them want to live up to the expectation of being a nice person. They are then more open and apt to speak to you and answer whatever question you may have. Qualification statements are great because they require minimal investment on the other persons part except to agree. In order for them to be in agreement every qualification statement should be framed in a positive way. Using these allows us to shape their behavior as they will comply to the positive trait. Qualification statements are great for starting an interaction as they work as great opening lines. You can then use them to transition to another type of opener, such as a functional opener or an opinion opener. They are also meant to Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 8 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com be used throughout your conversation as they can help solidify your interaction. A brief example of a qualification statement to be used throughout the conversation is listed below. “You’re not like all of the other bitchy New York girls. I like that.” The statement that you make should cause the person to “prove” that they have the quality you listed. From the example statement above, they will want to prove that they aren’t bitchy and rather be more nice and friendly. A list of examples of qualifying statements can be found over the following pages. Small Qualification Hoop A small qualification hoop is a question that only requires a yes or no answer. Using small hoops begins an easy screening frame and elicits an amount of true investment. Any qualification statement can be turned into a small hoop by simply turning it into a question format. An example would be, “Do you cook?” Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 9 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com Being able to successfully qualify is not based on the question that is asked. The response and answer given is what qualification actually is. In the previous example of asking if they cook, the response given could have just been a yes or no answer. That is OK because that is all that is required of a small hoop, but it is minimal investment. However, they could also invest further by giving a more detailed response: “Yes, I do cook. I actually make an amazing lasagna that my mom taught me when I was little.” Obviously the response above is more lengthy which means more investment on their side is being given. The more the other person invests, the better. Ways to Qualify – Adam Lyons 10 for more free information please visit www.attractionexplained.com Medium Qualification Hoops A medium qualification hoop is one that comes off of the back of a small one. With a medium hoop we want more than just a yes or no response, so you want to question them further to elicit a more detailed answer. Asking the questions what or how are great ways to turn a small hoop into a medium one. Probing further into the response asks them to further explain their answer. For example, if after asking if they liked to cook we then asked, “So what is your signature dish?” it would probably get the more lengthy answer we saw earlier. Another type of medium question is one that is a bit more personal, such as the example that we listed earlier of asking a girl if she has ever experimented with another girl. If you can ask that type of question, yet don’t ask for an explanation, then you are getting a good form of investment and uploads/Finance/ qualification-guide.pdf